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An introduction to rough sex & how to enjoy it safely

Rough sex still carries a massive stigma for those who enjoy or want to explore it.  The feeling of shame that one may presume comes with being transparent about your interest in it, may be enough to turn someone off the idea – no pun intended! Rough sex is not shameful. Whilst, yes, slow, sensual lovemaking has its place,...

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Playing alone: self-bondage and other solo BDSM ideas

When you think of kink and BDSM, you probably think of it as a partnered activity. It’s certainly true that some kinky activities require a partner, or are at least easier with another person involved. However, this probably applies to far fewer activities than you might think, there are plenty of solo BDSM ideas to be enjoyed alone.  But what...

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Safe porn websites

We often talk about ‘ethical porn’ in sex positive discourse, meaning porn in which the performers are paid fairly and treated well. Video, photos, audio porn, or erotica that you can enjoy as a consumer without worrying that you’re supporting toxic practices. But there’s more to an ethical porn experience than just knowing everyone who made it has been...

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My Confession by Charlie Cummings

It was a wonderfully warm, English summer’s day. The sky was an azure blue, swallows dipped and dived overhead. It had not been a particularly good week and I was looking forward to getting out into nature in some local woods, just a short drive away. I was between relationships and was missing sexual intimacy and I looked forward...

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Whats’s the psychology behind choking during sex

From “choke me, Daddy” memes to horror stories from first Tinder dates—as explored in our Sexual Choking Safety article—it feels like everyone and their Mom is into being choked these days. But, outside of the prevalence of depicted in porn, how do people come to associate with a seemingly violent action? And what is the psychology behind choking during sex? The...

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My Confession by Ruby Red

Party night – my sex party confession. I was woken by the sun streaming in through my window. It was a Saturday in mid-summer and already quite hot, too hot for nightwear, so I rose, slipped a thin robe over my naked body and went in search of tea. There was a ‘plop’ in the hall—post! I went to...

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My Confession by Smiling Heart

I had already felt this energy before. It makes the visit to the hairdresser an almost sensual experience. She has a way of washing hair that makes me tingle all the way down to my little toe and all the areas in between. The warm water, slow lathering and gentle yet firm massage of the scalp. Naughty thoughts came...

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