When you think of body positivity, what comes to mind? Plus-size swimsuit models? Saying affirmations in the mirror? While body positivity can involve those things, feeling good about your body is about much more than liking how you look. It’s about appreciating how your body feels and what it does, including all the pleasure it can give you. And...
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Masturbation. Wanking. Choking the chicken. Stroking the Gusset. Whatever you call it, it’s a pastime that we’ve been participating in for centuries. It can be fulfilling one moment, frustrating the next—and there can be some times when we just decide to give up and go and do something else! But can it be mindful masturbation? Are you someone who...
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Party night – my sex party confession. I was woken by the sun streaming in through my window. It was a Saturday in mid-summer and already quite hot, too hot for nightwear, so I rose, slipped a thin robe over my naked body and went in search of tea. There was a ‘plop’ in the hall—post! I went to...
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Ever since I saw Peter Greenaway’s movie, Drowning by Numbers, I’ve been fascinated by ice play and sex. There’s a part where Juliet Stevenson is penetrated by an ice lolly. It isn’t graphically depicted, just hinted at, but it left a big impression on me. It is an unexpected, highly erotic scene in the movie, as the couple involved...
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At the beginning of the relationship, sex is often intense and abundant. People engage in sexual activities that might not be their favourite in an effort to please new partners. As a result, it can be really difficult to tell just how compatible you are within the first six months of the relationship. During this honeymoon period, people don’t...
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I had already felt this energy before. It makes the visit to the hairdresser an almost sensual experience. She has a way of washing hair that makes me tingle all the way down to my little toe and all the areas in between. The warm water, slow lathering and gentle yet firm massage of the scalp. Naughty thoughts came...
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What is compersion? Well, loosely put it’s pretty much the opposite of jealousy. You will have felt compersion at some point in your life, even if you weren’t able to put a name to the emotion. You know that warm fuzzy feeling you get when you see someone you love do something great; your best friend getting married, your...
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From petit pecks on the cheek to full-on tonsil tennis, kissing plays a variety of roles in our intimate human connections. This can include platonic greetings, affectionate friendships, romantic bonding, passionate sexual expression, sexuality exploration and even queer protest. Fear not this guide to kissing will cover it all. We kiss in many types of ways, for many different...
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Why watch masturbation? Well, the reason we have such a large collection of masturbation videos, particularly featuring women pleasuring themselves, is that humans simply love to watch! But there are other benefits too. Watching someone masturbate, especially your lover is not only erotic, but it can also be educational. You get to see how their body responds to a...
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Within a bee hive, pheromonal output is key to communication and reproduction. If only it were that simple for us humans. As an eroticist and beekeeper, the opportunity for me to get to write about pheromones is exciting! I’ll try not to linger too long on the ‘Apidae’ side of things, but do want to briefly give you a small,...
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It feels like everyone, and their grandma is into sexual choking these days. Even though this BDSM kink is anything but entry-level, it feels more accessible to because it does not require fancy tools, bits, or bobs in order to participate. You already have everything on your body you need to engage in this kind of play. Despite this...
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It’s that time of year again, and we’re here to rate our top porn movies for Valentine’s… after a long dark, austere winter, spring is finally just around the corner, and life is beginning to emerge, a bit bleary-eyed, we’ll admit, but that sap will be rising in no time and a day dedicated to love is surely in...
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Cock rings don’t always get the best rep, and it’s usually because people are misinformed on how to use them, which one is right for them, and the purpose of their functionalities. Originally developed to be used as effective erection aids, cock rings were made to squeeze the base of the shaft (and sometimes testicles) to hold all blood...
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There are countless myths about masturbation borne out of cultural and religious taboos. Many of the old myths, like ‘masturbation will make you go blind’, have been widely debunked and now make us laugh. Unfortunately, these myths have been overtaken by more insidious ones like ‘masturbation will cause you to lose interest in your partner’ or ‘masturbation means that...
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My lesbian neighbour sex confession… It was September last year when she moved into the neighbourhood. She knocked on our door one Saturday morning. Tomi and I were still in bed. Thinking it was a delivery, I’d got up and answered the door in my underwear. Tomi liked it when I did that —seeing the person’s reaction and then...
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The holiday season is a time to spend with loved ones… but attention should definitely be paid to a more sexy kind of loving too! Indulging your sexy side with yourself or your partner is a great idea for the ultimate festive spice. You might only have a stolen moment to grab a quickie between playing Santa and buying...
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With the cost of living soaring and monies tight, we thought we’d share with you seven sexy tips and ideas for keeping things hot and spicy on a budget at Christmas. 1—Lingerie look up. Instead of buying new undies… why not take a good rummage in your own drawers and wardrobes? We all hoard the odd pair of sexy...
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You may already be au fait with the delights of the derriere, but if you are curious, we thought we’d feature the joys of anal fun and how to use a butt plug. Firstly, the term ‘butt plug’ is such an unsexy name for what can be a truly sumptuous sensual experience. Put simply; a butt plug is a...
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Prostates are finally getting their time in the sexual sun in recent years as our concept and understanding of pleasure continue to broaden beyond penis-in-vagina sex. What is the prostate? Often referred to as the ‘G Spot for penises’, prostate stimulation is touted as a way to experience more intense orgasms, but that’s not the only reason you should...
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Polyamory explained What is polyamory? And is it for me? If you haven’t heard of polyamory you’ve probably been living under a rock. The definitions and descriptions of the many different sexualities, gender orientations, who you’re attracted to and, of course, relationship styles have exploded rather delightfully over the past few years. Both media and literature are full of relatively...
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