An introduction to hotwifing from a male perspective It’s almost 1 am when I hear the murmur of goodnights and the sound of the front door finally clicking shut. I wait in the silent darkness, my heart pounding, until I finally hear my wife’s bare feet padding down the hall. The door opens and she giggles a bit, still...
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Rough sex still carries a massive stigma for those who enjoy or want to explore it. The feeling of shame that one may presume comes with being transparent about your interest in it, may be enough to turn someone off the idea – no pun intended! Rough sex is not shameful. Whilst, yes, slow, sensual lovemaking has its place,...
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When you think of kink and BDSM, you probably think of it as a partnered activity. It’s certainly true that some kinky activities require a partner, or are at least easier with another person involved. However, this probably applies to far fewer activities than you might think, there are plenty of solo BDSM ideas to be enjoyed alone. But what...
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I really wanted to share this experience we just recently had. This new couple—we’ll call them Jones—Megan and Chris just moved into the neighbourhood a few months ago. So after they first moved in, we had them over for dinner to get to know them. We really hit it off with them—we’re around the same age, have similar interests,...
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We often talk about ‘ethical porn’ in sex positive discourse, meaning porn in which the performers are paid fairly and treated well. Video, photos, audio porn, or erotica that you can enjoy as a consumer without worrying that you’re supporting toxic practices. But there’s more to an ethical porn experience than just knowing everyone who made it has been...
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When you think about the timing of sex, do you automatically picture doing it during the early hours of the day, in the afternoon, or closer to bedtime? Sex, in general, is already great, but there might be something extra special about shagging first thing in the morning before work or school that makes doing the deed even more...
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Sight. Sound. Touch. Taste. Smell. As humans, we learn that these are the five senses that we use to experience the world around us; we are all sensual beings. But when it comes to sex, it seems this core human experience is sometimes left by the wayside. In a predominantly sex-negative society, we are taught a very one-dimensional perspective...
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When people think about the Middle Ages sex, medieval porn isn’t usually the first thing they think of. There’s a lot of good reasons for this but one of the biggest is that the medieval period—which runs from the ‘fall of Rome’ in 476 to the sixteenth century was a really long time ago. The sources that survive to...
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It was a wonderfully warm, English summer’s day. The sky was an azure blue, swallows dipped and dived overhead. It had not been a particularly good week and I was looking forward to getting out into nature in some local woods, just a short drive away. I was between relationships and was missing sexual intimacy and I looked forward...
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The vagina is home to a lot of bacteria. Known as vaginal flora, one might call it a thriving bacterial ecosystem! Maintaining the pH balance of the flora is a crucial part of keeping the vagina healthy. A pH scale is used to measure how acidic or alkaline a substance is and runs from 0 to 14. Anything with...
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From “choke me, Daddy” memes to horror stories from first Tinder dates—as explored in our Sexual Choking Safety article—it feels like everyone and their Mom is into being choked these days. But, outside of the prevalence of depicted in porn, how do people come to associate with a seemingly violent action? And what is the psychology behind choking during sex? The...
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It is an incredibly difficult and personal experience to describe the sensations of what does an orgasm feel like? Some of us might have always had orgasms and perhaps never even thought about what they really were or why our bodies did it. From my own point of view, orgasms were something nice that gave me comfort and helped...
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When you think of body positivity, what comes to mind? Plus-size swimsuit models? Saying affirmations in the mirror? While body positivity can involve those things, feeling good about your body is about much more than liking how you look. It’s about appreciating how your body feels and what it does, including all the pleasure it can give you. And...
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Masturbation. Wanking. Choking the chicken. Stroking the Gusset. Whatever you call it, it’s a pastime that we’ve been participating in for centuries. It can be fulfilling one moment, frustrating the next—and there can be some times when we just decide to give up and go and do something else! But can it be mindful masturbation? Are you someone who...
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Party night – my sex party confession. I was woken by the sun streaming in through my window. It was a Saturday in mid-summer and already quite hot, too hot for nightwear, so I rose, slipped a thin robe over my naked body and went in search of tea. There was a ‘plop’ in the hall—post! I went to...
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Ever since I saw Peter Greenaway’s movie, Drowning by Numbers, I’ve been fascinated by ice play and sex. There’s a part where Juliet Stevenson is penetrated by an ice lolly. It isn’t graphically depicted, just hinted at, but it left a big impression on me. It is an unexpected, highly erotic scene in the movie, as the couple involved...
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At the beginning of the relationship, sex is often intense and abundant. People engage in sexual activities that might not be their favourite in an effort to please new partners. As a result, it can be really difficult to tell just how compatible you are within the first six months of the relationship. During this honeymoon period, people don’t...
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I had already felt this energy before. It makes the visit to the hairdresser an almost sensual experience. She has a way of washing hair that makes me tingle all the way down to my little toe and all the areas in between. The warm water, slow lathering and gentle yet firm massage of the scalp. Naughty thoughts came...
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What is compersion? Well, loosely put it’s pretty much the opposite of jealousy. You will have felt compersion at some point in your life, even if you weren’t able to put a name to the emotion. You know that warm fuzzy feeling you get when you see someone you love do something great; your best friend getting married, your...
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From petit pecks on the cheek to full-on tonsil tennis, kissing plays a variety of roles in our intimate human connections. This can include platonic greetings, affectionate friendships, romantic bonding, passionate sexual expression, sexuality exploration and even queer protest. Fear not this guide to kissing will cover it all. We kiss in many types of ways, for many different...
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