Sight. Sound. Touch. Taste. Smell. As humans, we learn that these are the five senses that we use to experience the world around us; we are all sensual beings. But when it comes to sex, it seems this core human experience is sometimes left by the wayside. In a predominantly sex-negative society, we are taught a very one-dimensional perspective...
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When people think about the Middle Ages sex, medieval porn isn’t usually the first thing they think of. There’s a lot of good reasons for this but one of the biggest is that the medieval period—which runs from the ‘fall of Rome’ in 476 to the sixteenth century was a really long time ago. The sources that survive to...
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It was a wonderfully warm, English summer’s day. The sky was an azure blue, swallows dipped and dived overhead. It had not been a particularly good week and I was looking forward to getting out into nature in some local woods, just a short drive away. I was between relationships and was missing sexual intimacy and I looked forward...
Read MoreThe vagina is home to a lot of bacteria. Known as vaginal flora, one might call it a thriving bacterial ecosystem! Maintaining the pH balance of the flora is a crucial part of keeping the vagina healthy. A pH scale is used to measure how acidic or alkaline a substance is and runs from 0 to 14. Anything with...
Read MoreFrom “choke me, Daddy” memes to horror stories from first Tinder dates—as explored in our Sexual Choking Safety article—it feels like everyone and their Mom is into being choked these days. But, outside of the prevalence of depicted in porn, how do people come to associate with a seemingly violent action? And what is the psychology behind choking during sex? The...
Read MoreIt is an incredibly difficult and personal experience to describe the sensations of what does an orgasm feel like? Some of us might have always had orgasms and perhaps never even thought about what they really were or why our bodies did it. From my own point of view, orgasms were something nice that gave me comfort and helped...
Read MoreWhen you think of body positivity, what comes to mind? Plus-size swimsuit models? Saying affirmations in the mirror? While body positivity can involve those things, feeling good about your body is about much more than liking how you look. It’s about appreciating how your body feels and what it does, including all the pleasure it can give you. And...
Read MoreMasturbation. Wanking. Choking the chicken. Stroking the Gusset. Whatever you call it, it’s a pastime that we’ve been participating in for centuries. It can be fulfilling one moment, frustrating the next—and there can be some times when we just decide to give up and go and do something else! But can it be mindful masturbation? Are you someone who...
Read MoreParty night – my sex party confession. I was woken by the sun streaming in through my window. It was a Saturday in mid-summer and already quite hot, too hot for nightwear, so I rose, slipped a thin robe over my naked body and went in search of tea. There was a ‘plop’ in the hall—post! I went to...
Read MoreEver since I saw Peter Greenaway’s movie, Drowning by Numbers, I’ve been fascinated by ice play and sex. There’s a part where Juliet Stevenson is penetrated by an ice lolly. It isn’t graphically depicted, just hinted at, but it left a big impression on me. It is an unexpected, highly erotic scene in the movie, as the couple involved...
Read MoreAt the beginning of the relationship, sex is often intense and abundant. People engage in sexual activities that might not be their favourite in an effort to please new partners. As a result, it can be really difficult to tell just how compatible you are within the first six months of the relationship. During this honeymoon period, people don’t...
Read MoreI had already felt this energy before. It makes the visit to the hairdresser an almost sensual experience. She has a way of washing hair that makes me tingle all the way down to my little toe and all the areas in between. The warm water, slow lathering and gentle yet firm massage of the scalp. Naughty thoughts came...
Read MoreWhat is compersion? Well, loosely put it’s pretty much the opposite of jealousy. You will have felt compersion at some point in your life, even if you weren’t able to put a name to the emotion. You know that warm fuzzy feeling you get when you see someone you love do something great; your best friend getting married, your...
Read MoreFrom petit pecks on the cheek to full-on tonsil tennis, kissing plays a variety of roles in our intimate human connections. This can include platonic greetings, affectionate friendships, romantic bonding, passionate sexual expression, sexuality exploration and even queer protest. Fear not this guide to kissing will cover it all. We kiss in many types of ways, for many different...
Read MoreWhy watch masturbation? Well, the reason we have such a large collection of masturbation videos, particularly featuring women pleasuring themselves, is that humans simply love to watch! But there are other benefits too. Watching someone masturbate, especially your lover is not only erotic, but it can also be educational. You get to see how their body responds to a...
Read MoreWithin a bee hive, pheromonal output is key to communication and reproduction. If only it were that simple for us humans. As an eroticist and beekeeper, the opportunity for me to get to write about pheromones is exciting! I’ll try not to linger too long on the ‘Apidae’ side of things, but do want to briefly give you a small,...
Read MoreIt feels like everyone, and their grandma is into sexual choking these days. Even though this BDSM kink is anything but entry-level, it feels more accessible to because it does not require fancy tools, bits, or bobs in order to participate. You already have everything on your body you need to engage in this kind of play. Despite this...
Read MoreIt’s that time of year again, and we’re here to rate our top porn movies for Valentine’s… after a long dark, austere winter, spring is finally just around the corner, and life is beginning to emerge, a bit bleary-eyed, we’ll admit, but that sap will be rising in no time and a day dedicated to love is surely in...
Read MoreCock rings don’t always get the best rep, and it’s usually because people are misinformed on how to use them, which one is right for them, and the purpose of their functionalities. Originally developed to be used as effective erection aids, cock rings were made to squeeze the base of the shaft (and sometimes testicles) to hold all blood...
Read MoreThere are countless myths about masturbation borne out of cultural and religious taboos. Many of the old myths like ‘masturbation will make you go blind’ have been widely debunked and now make us laugh. Unfortunately, these myths have been overtaken by more insidious ones like ‘masturbation will cause you to lose interest in your partner’ or ‘masturbation means that your...
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