How to have better quality and stronger orgasms
Sex educator and pleasure journalist Tatyannah King shares some great tips and her own personal sexual explorations to advise us all on how to improve the quality and strength of our climaxes. It’s easy to fall into habits and the old, ‘if it ain’t broke’ mentality but Tatyannah urges us to stay sexually curious and reap the gloriously satisfying rewards for doing so. Stronger orgasms? Yes please! People commonly say that an apple a day keeps the doctor away, but an orgasm a...
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Sensate focus: how to improve intimacy and communication around sex
Sensate Focus Do you feel out of sync with the intimate parts of your body? Has your pleasure taken a back seat? And has intimacy with others become a second thought, often rushed or a chore? Then you have arrived at the right place. We’re often so focused on getting through the day that we prioritise quick gratification rather...
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How to get stronger erections
Whether you call it an erection, boner, stiffy, or hard-on (the list goes on)… the erection is a symbol of virility and unbridled pleasure. The erection is monumentally associated with society and culture’s ideas of stereotypical masculinity, appearing everywhere from ancient art to religious imagery, and even becoming one of the most graffiti’d icons of all time. How many times can you...
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Want to get rid of your gag reflex with deep throat spray? Here’s what you should know
To deep throat or not to deep throat? That is the question everyone who gives a blowjob will have to answer at some point. There’s a common assumption that getting a dick to the back of your throat is one of the ultimate goals of a good BJ, but sometimes certain things get in the way of that—like, your...
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How to striptease: advice for shy girls
What is a striptease? Many women have fantasised about being a striptease artist. Standing spotlit on a stage, the centre of attention, slowly peeling off their clothes as to a sensuous beat… Lapdancing in a private booth, turning a wealthy and powerful man into a shuddering wreck… Or more romantically, putting on a show-for-one to surprise and delight a...
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Car sex: how to do it!
Are you wondering how to have car sex? Let me first ask what the phrase ‘car sex’ conjures up for you? Is it old American movies where saucy couples get up to a bit of naughty necking at the drive-in? To be fair, a big, sturdy US Caddy with a bench seat offers quite a different opportunity for love...
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Tips on how to give a great handjob
Kissing aside, I think hand jobs are one of the most underrated sex acts. They certainly have been for me, at any rate: an ex-partner once told me that hand jobs are like making a cup of tea because “it’s nice when someone does it for you, but they’ll never do it as well as you can.” Because of...
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Want to have more sex? Here are 7 ways to schedule it
Many people believe that sex should be spontaneous, and scheduling it takes away passion and excitement. You may be thinking, “Are we really to the point that THIS is what our sex life looks like… an appointment on a calendar?” However, scheduling sex doesn’t have to feel like a chore to check off your to-do list. Contrary to popular...
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How to last longer in bed: tips to extend pleasure for you and your partner
How long should sex last? Most of us instinctively understand that there is no ‘correct’ answer to that question. However, for many of us—people with penises in particular—there’s still a nagging feeling that stamina is high on the list of desirable qualities in a sexual partner. Coming too quickly—often called ‘premature ejaculation’ if you have a dick—can sometimes be...
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In praise of period sex and its benefits
Some of my best sex has happened on my period. I’m lucky enough to only suffer painful cramps for one day, but the rest of the time I’m bleeding, I’m outrageously horny. It’s as if my body has turned a dial on arousal and suddenly what used to be a ‘want’ has become almost a ‘need.’ And I’m not...
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Sexual communication: a practical guide on how to talk about sex
Perhaps the most common piece of sex advice offered online (or anywhere else, for that matter) is ‘communicate’. We’re told that communication is key, and that is definitely true—not just in sex but throughout relationships as a whole. But rarely are we given advice on how to talk about sex. Living in a society where we’re discouraged from talking about sex...
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Is noisy sex better sex? What your sex noises say about you
Ah, those sex noises, oos the ahhs—the yes, Yes YESSES! Sex scenes in films and TV shows usually depict lovers in the throes of passion roaring, panting and grunting all the way to orgasm. Certainly, porn films also elevate the ooos into something mythical, but what about reality? From sneaking lovers under the cover of darkness into your parents’...
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5 ways to introduce tantra-inspired sex into your relationship
If you’ve recently watched our erotic movies, Number One and our female-only, Tantra Number Two, you might be thinking about tantra and giving the slow, sensual world of tantra-inspired sex a whirl. So what is tantra? Tantra is a Sanskrit term which means to weave, or even more lovely—to compose. Thinking about these definitions alone, you can feel a slowing of...
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An introduction to rough sex & how to enjoy it safely
Rough sex still carries a massive stigma for those who enjoy or want to explore it. The feeling of shame that one may presume comes with being transparent about your interest in it, may be enough to turn someone off the idea – no pun intended! Rough sex is not shameful. Whilst, yes, slow, sensual lovemaking has its place,...
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Playing alone: self-bondage and other solo BDSM ideas
When you think of kink and BDSM, you probably think of it as a partnered activity. It’s certainly true that some kinky activities require a partner, or are at least easier with another person involved. However, this probably applies to far fewer activities than you might think, there are plenty of solo BDSM ideas to be enjoyed alone. But what...
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Morning sex – benefits & how to initiate it
When you think about the timing of sex, do you automatically picture doing it during the early hours of the day, in the afternoon, or closer to bedtime? Sex, in general, is already great, but there might be something extra special about shagging first thing in the morning before work or school that makes doing the deed even more...
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How to have sensual sex?: 7 tips for the most sensual sex ever
Sight. Sound. Touch. Taste. Smell. As humans, we learn that these are the five senses that we use to experience the world around us; we are all sensual beings. But when it comes to sex, it seems this core human experience is sometimes left by the wayside. In a predominantly sex-negative society, we are taught a very one-dimensional perspective...
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Whats’s the psychology behind choking during sex
From “choke me, Daddy” memes to horror stories from first Tinder dates—as explored in our Sexual Choking Safety article—it feels like everyone and their Mom is into being choked these days. But, outside of the prevalence of depicted in porn, how do people come to associate with a seemingly violent action? And what is the psychology behind choking during sex? The...
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Making masturbation a multi-sensory experience
Masturbation. Wanking. Choking the chicken. Stroking the Gusset. Whatever you call it, it’s a pastime that we’ve been participating in for centuries. It can be fulfilling one moment, frustrating the next—and there can be some times when we just decide to give up and go and do something else! But can it be mindful masturbation? Are you someone who...
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What is Temperature Play?
Ever since I saw Peter Greenaway’s movie, Drowning by Numbers, I’ve been fascinated by ice play and sex. There’s a part where Juliet Stevenson is penetrated by an ice lolly. It isn’t graphically depicted, just hinted at, but it left a big impression on me. It is an unexpected, highly erotic scene in the movie, as the couple involved...
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