How to last longer in bed: tips to extend pleasure for you and your partner
How long should sex last? Most of us instinctively understand that there is no ‘correct’ answer to that question. However, for many of us—people with penises in particular—there’s still a nagging feeling that stamina is high on the list of desirable qualities in a sexual partner. Coming too quickly—often called ‘premature ejaculation’ if you have a dick—can sometimes be...
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In praise of period sex and its benefits
Some of my best sex has happened on my period. I’m lucky enough to only suffer painful cramps for one day, but the rest of the time I’m bleeding, I’m outrageously horny. It’s as if my body has turned a dial on arousal and suddenly what used to be a ‘want’ has become almost a ‘need.’ And I’m not...
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Sexual communication: a practical guide on how to talk about sex
Perhaps the most common piece of sex advice offered online (or anywhere else, for that matter) is ‘communicate’. We’re told that communication is key, and that is definitely true—not just in sex but throughout relationships as a whole. But rarely are we given advice on how to talk about sex. Living in a society where we’re discouraged from talking about sex...
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Is noisy sex better sex? What your sex noises say about you
Ah, those sex noises, oos the ahhs—the yes, Yes YESSES! Sex scenes in films and TV shows usually depict lovers in the throes of passion roaring, panting and grunting all the way to orgasm. Certainly, porn films also elevate the ooos into something mythical, but what about reality? From sneaking lovers under the cover of darkness into your parents’...
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5 ways to introduce tantra-inspired sex into your relationship
If you’ve recently watched our erotic movies, Number One and our female-only, Tantra Number Two, you might be thinking about tantra and giving the slow, sensual world of tantra-inspired sex a whirl. So what is tantra? Tantra is a Sanskrit term which means to weave, or even more lovely—to compose. Thinking about these definitions alone, you can feel a slowing of...
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An introduction to rough sex & how to enjoy it safely
Rough sex still carries a massive stigma for those who enjoy or want to explore it. The feeling of shame that one may presume comes with being transparent about your interest in it, may be enough to turn someone off the idea – no pun intended! Rough sex is not shameful. Whilst, yes, slow, sensual lovemaking has its place,...
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Playing alone: self-bondage and other solo BDSM ideas
When you think of kink and BDSM, you probably think of it as a partnered activity. It’s certainly true that some kinky activities require a partner, or are at least easier with another person involved. However, this probably applies to far fewer activities than you might think, there are plenty of solo BDSM ideas to be enjoyed alone. But what...
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The benefits of morning sex and tips to make it hotter
When you think about the timing of sex, do you automatically picture doing it during the early hours of the day, in the afternoon, or closer to bedtime? Sex, in general, is already great, but there might be something extra special about shagging first thing in the morning before work or school that makes doing the deed even more...
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How to have sensual sex?: 7 tips for the most sensual sex ever
Sight. Sound. Touch. Taste. Smell. As humans, we learn that these are the five senses that we use to experience the world around us; we are all sensual beings. But when it comes to sex, it seems this core human experience is sometimes left by the wayside. In a predominantly sex-negative society, we are taught a very one-dimensional perspective...
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Whats’s the psychology behind choking during sex
From “choke me, Daddy” memes to horror stories from first Tinder dates—as explored in our Sexual Choking Safety article—it feels like everyone and their Mom is into being choked these days. But, outside of the prevalence of depicted in porn, how do people come to associate with a seemingly violent action? And what is the psychology behind choking during sex? The...
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Making masturbation a multi-sensory experience
Masturbation. Wanking. Choking the chicken. Stroking the Gusset. Whatever you call it, it’s a pastime that we’ve been participating in for centuries. It can be fulfilling one moment, frustrating the next—and there can be some times when we just decide to give up and go and do something else! But can it be mindful masturbation? Are you someone who...
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What is Temperature Play?
Ever since I saw Peter Greenaway’s movie, Drowning by Numbers, I’ve been fascinated by ice play and sex. There’s a part where Juliet Stevenson is penetrated by an ice lolly. It isn’t graphically depicted, just hinted at, but it left a big impression on me. It is an unexpected, highly erotic scene in the movie, as the couple involved...
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Navigating mismatched libidos in a long-term relationship
At the beginning of the relationship, sex is often intense and abundant. People engage in sexual activities that might not be their favourite in an effort to please new partners. As a result, it can be really difficult to tell just how compatible you are within the first six months of the relationship. During this honeymoon period, people don’t...
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A sensualists guide to kissing
From petit pecks on the cheek to full-on tonsil tennis, kissing plays a variety of roles in our intimate human connections. This can include platonic greetings, affectionate friendships, romantic bonding, passionate sexual expression, sexuality exploration and even queer protest. Fear not this guide to kissing will cover it all. We kiss in many types of ways, for many different...
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Why watch masturbation porn? What is the appeal?
Why watch masturbation? Well, the reason we have such a large collection of masturbation videos, particularly featuring women pleasuring themselves, is that humans simply love to watch! But there are other benefits too. Watching someone masturbate, especially your lover is not only erotic, but it can also be educational. You get to see how their body responds to a...
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A guide to sexual choking – and must know safety tips
It feels like everyone, and their grandma is into sexual choking these days. Even though this BDSM kink is anything but entry-level, it feels more accessible to because it does not require fancy tools, bits, or bobs in order to participate. You already have everything on your body you need to engage in this kind of play. Despite this...
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A guide to butt plugs and how to use them?
You may already be au fait with the delights of the derriere, but if you are curious, we thought we’d feature the joys of anal fun and how to use a butt plug. Firstly, the term ‘butt plug’ is such an unsexy name for what can be a truly sumptuous sensual experience. Put simply; a butt plug is a...
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How to introduce prostate play to your sex life?
Prostates are finally getting their time in the sexual sun in recent years as our concept and understanding of pleasure continue to broaden beyond penis-in-vagina sex. What is the prostate? Often referred to as the ‘G Spot for penises’, prostate stimulation is touted as a way to experience more intense orgasms, but that’s not the only reason you should...
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Female orgasm techniques and joys
Researchers have researched, studies have studied, and scientists have attempted to apply science in a bid to understand the amazingness of the female orgasm. The female orgasm is a huge area of interest, and it’s not hard to see why. A woman’s body is a hot map of pleasure, complete with a plethora of erogenous zones that, once stimulated, can provide an...
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Rimming, the joys and pleasures explained
Sometimes their ass looks good enough to eat, doesn’t it? And I say: EAT IT. Rimming is one of my personal favourite sexual activities. It quenches parts of my mind-body-and-soul that I didn’t know existed before I’d tried it. For those of you who aren’t privy to what I am talking about, ‘Rimming’ (or ‘Analingus’, by dictionary definition) is...
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