Taboo? Sexual fantasy porn? Something you’d love to try but don’t know how if it will work for you? Thinking about how to manage a ménage?
We asked five people to describe their experiences of having a threesome.
Maria – Maria Opens Up
I can’t recall if I fantasized more specifically about threesomes than just “wanting to try new things”. The first partner I had after what I would call my “sexual awakening” (at 38) coincided with my discovery of the sex blogging world where suddenly so many things I hadn’t really thought about before seemed exciting, fun and worth trying. I did definitely start to incorporate talking about FFM threesomes as a form of dirty talk with my partner. Mostly because it really turned him on and that really turned me on. His excitement spurred my excitement so after a while, I was really wanting to try it. When we finally did meet up with a real woman, my talk about it got way hotter and better. In fantasies though, now, I tend to imagine MMF more frequently than FFM and that’s something this partner isn’t into.
We met someone online for the specific purpose of having an ffm threesome. We set up a shared OKC account (OK Cupid dating site) https://www.okcupid.com and both emailed people who seemed open to it. In fact, we’ve used this option a few times now. The first time was ok, it was fun because it was new and exciting but the chemistry wasn’t really there in the way we had hoped. The second time was great, it turned into a somewhat regular event with a lovely lady and the three of us had great chemistry.
In the case of the first partner, we worked together to meet people online and chat. In two other cases, the guy I was seeing had another female partner and that’s how the threesome sex came about, after watching threesome porn. And in the final case, it was two good friends of mine who are partners with each other, but I had also had a relationship with the guy in the past. That was probably one of my favourite experiences because we all knew each other well and had really been looking forward to it. But I also really enjoyed the dynamic with N, the lady my first partner and I met who we saw several times. I liked the feeling of being part of a unit (with him) and of sort of introducing her to us together. I liked being able to look over at him while she and I were doing something together and see his reaction. I lean towards sub and am generally a people-pleaser and I get a significant amount of satisfaction turning someone else on/exceeding expectations. It was *very* hot to reach over and grab his hand and look into his eyes while I was going down on her for instance or vice versa. Seeing how into it he was. Also, it’s very fucking hot getting fucked while a beautiful woman is also touching me.
In most cases, we didn’t really do too much to set the scene, but we did spend quite a bit of time chatting, getting to know each other a bit better, setting expectations and boundaries. In the one instance where we didn’t spend enough time discussing boundaries and expectations, it ended with some hurt feelings and taught me to be more careful about that in the future.
In all cases, it was at one of our houses. I love the idea of a hotel though—but so far, haven’t met anyone with enough $$$ to make that a thing 🙂
I’ll be honest, I kind of hated the process of meeting people and arranging it because there were so many conversations that didn’t pan out, but once we finally met up, it was great! Usually 🙂 like I said, in a couple of cases we didn’t have as much chemistry as we thought. In general, though, I felt powerful and sexy. Like I was doing this really illicit thing that no one who knew me in my regular life would ever suspect and honestly, that is one of the biggest turn-ons for me. Subverting expectations, even if the people who hold those expectations will never know. Also, let’s be honest, women are beautiful. Gorgeous, lush, lovely. And going down on a woman, giving her pleasure, it made me feel powerful. But it also helped me understand a little about myself. And helped me to put myself in a partner’s shoes. What it feels like to taste her, gives me a glimpse of what it might feel like to taste me. Also, being in a threesome really spoke to my slight exhibitionist and erotic voyeur leanings. I like watching, I like pausing to watch voyeur porn, to spy two other people together, and I like being watched.
I will say, I had my first taste of a Doxy in an FFM threesome and I was not expecting it to be so powerful! I pretty much fell off the bed it was so intense! I was with friends that evening and the whole experience was so lovely, giggly, and very, very hot that it felt safe and exciting to try new toys.
Also, in one instance, the other female and I used a very big double-ended dildo and it was honestly kind of stressful to get into the proper position but once we got going, it was pretty fun. I think in most of my FFM threesomes, there was equal fucking all around (PIV for both ladies, both ladies went down on each other, we both sucked his cock, etc. The labour was evenly distributed if you will 🙂 But all my partners have been more on the casual end of the spectrum. I’ve never had a threesome with a “life partner” so to speak, so I’m not sure if that would change the dynamic or the way I interacted with the third person.
My favourite part about FFM threesomes with N was that she stayed the night and we all three snuggled up together, her in the middle. It was very sweet and fun.
ANON
Did I fantasise about having an FFM threesome before it happened? Not sure I did. However, once the initial idea of it was planted by the couple I’d met. Then I did a lot, right until it happened.
It was planned. I was married! I actually invited this couple to my house (my husband was away on a work weekend) I cooked a meal, we drank wine and awkwardly headed to bed. I felt the female, let’s call her Emma, was the least involved, but still fully on board. It began with me and her partner (call him John) turning each other on. I think I initiated that. By just starting to suck his cock. He was immediately into it and got me to sit on his face in a 69. Emma watching us.
I’d never been with a woman before, neither had she so I was a little nervous of that. But I got her to lie down and licked her gorgeous large nipples. I gradually let my hand brush her clit and found she was very wet so promptly used a finger to fuck her gently. It was weird. But exciting. John was wanking and watching us. I took some tentative licks of her clit and then encouraged John to take over, he brought her to a hot climax quite quickly. It was so hot to watch (reliving this I so want to do it again). Then he got a condom and encouraged me to ride him whilst Emma all in a post-orgasmic bliss watched us. (I should note here I had fucked him before several times before they got together) so this part was not new as such, but it felt good and I was so horny being watched and liberated, being asked to join this couple for this fun.
I don’t remember so much more. I think a while after our riding fun he came quite quickly. Then we all lay and chatted, I think it then ended with him and her doggy style before we fell asleep.
They were colleges from my work! Working in different teams.
We initially discussed it in some unisex toilets on a work night out. They then asked me about it in work on breaks etc.. and we arranged it in person.
It was at my house. I cooked and made the bed up with fresh bedding etc…
[I was] nervous but excited.
I think I maybe did a little leading, we may have all coyly laid there all night if not, being British and polite!
We all fell asleep it was ok in the morning. We didn’t repeat, we had breakfast they left. I later joined them at their house for another night of this. It followed a similar pattern. If I remember she rode her partner this second time and I had the second fuck which went on for much longer than the first time or her time. Interesting, I remember thinking I think she got a little frustrated when we were fucking so long that second time.
Mr Smith
We had our first FFM threesome about 18 months ago.
We’d talked about it before whilst exploring boundaries within our relationship, but it wasn’t until after my wife had played with another woman that we began to take it more seriously.
We’d talked with a mutual female Twitter friend, had chance to meet them quite aside from anything sexual, but found out they fancied my wife (and possibly me) We knew we had some time to ourselves that coincided with them being relatively nearby. We arranged to meet up quite a while in advance.
We booked a hotel, making sure there was a good-sized bed (it ended up being a very good size) I left my wife at the bar while I went to meet the other lady. We’d already met, but it gave us a chance for a nice chat. We’d booked afternoon tea, so it was a nice relaxed way to start the afternoon.
We were all a bit nervous and polite, but when I suggested I head upstairs and draw a bath for the ladies, it seemed to move things in the right direction. They followed me up in the lift a little later, I believe they managed to snog on the way up (?)
We had brought a glass toy, a plug and lube, our friend brought a Clit Vibe. We did use the toys, more-so the girls on each other, quite a lot was mouths and hands and me fucking either of them.
My memory is of it being quite organic and asking each other things. I may have jumped the gun early and joined in with my mouth when I could’ve allowed things to progress a bit more.
My overriding memory is of fucking our friend whilst my wife lay next to us masturbating. I had never seen someone so turned on! She was looking straight at me whilst I fucked someone else. She looked so hot!
The smell, taste and feel of someone different was exciting but threw me a little. Sometimes I had to bring myself back into the room to be involved as I couldn’t really believe it was happening.
We spent a long time fucking/playing then went to get food. We spent the night altogether but only think we slept. In the morning we spent quite a bit more time enjoying each other, trying different things. I remember fucking my wife and our friend asking to watch me come inside her.
We had to head to an extended family event afterwards but had a long enough journey to talk about it quite in-depth. This in itself was quite hot. Chatting later online with our friend, we all felt that what we experienced was very respectful, easy-going and above all very hot.
When we talked about it later, it helped us understand each other and bring up protocols for play we have had with other people. The event was a gateway to other threesomes and moresomes. It was a very beautiful way to start.
Mrs Smith
We have always discussed our sexual fantasy porn with each other and my husband has always known I was bi. As a married monogamous couple in our early 40s who have been together 20 years, our sex life has always been good but it’s always been evolving too. We like some soft BDSM and have found that has improved our trust and confidence in ourselves and made us more honest with each other.
The first time was planned, but I’m a planner by nature anyway. It took a few months to sort out a suitable city/weekend so we had work and child cover. It gave us time, time to chat about what we wanted to do and try. Time to have conversations with the other person about dos and don’ts discusses contraception and protection. Time for my husband and I to go through all the things we were concerned about, but also time to get really excited and to work ourselves up over what might happen.
The first time it was a female twitter friend we had both met socially before, who we were sharing intimate photos with, and when it was mentioned she expressed an interest in joining us.
When the weekend arrived, we got to the nice hotel early and planned to have an afternoon tea first. My husband walked to meet our female friend from the station and brought he back to the hotel where we enjoyed a drink and high tea and reacquainted ourselves. We then decided it would be nice to have a bath and my husband went up to the room to run the bath leaving us a moment together. Kissing her in the lift on the way up was just the start. Myself and the woman enjoyed the intimacy of washing each other and exploring our bodies—he’d been watching and encouraging everything and as we moved to the bed he then joined in.
It was all so easy and comfortable and fun and so damn hot. At no point did I feel uncomfortable or worried. We were chatting throughout and each of us suggesting different things.
We had oral sex with each other and played with one of my favourite glass dildos and her favourite clitoral vibe too. Then he was fucking her (with condoms) doggy style and I was lying next to her kissing her and wanking. It was so hot to watch how much she was enjoying his cock and he was watching my face seeing how much it was turning me on it seemed to create this amazing hot sexual cycle of pleasure. Near the end of the first session, we both enjoyed sucking his cock together and watching it explode with what was such a mighty orgasm. No one particularly took the lead but she was so encouraging and possibly suggested more things initially. We had food out and fucked the next morning too. I particularly enjoyed licking her clit as he fucked her and her playing with the vibe on me while he fucked me. It all felt so wonderfully happy and easy and relaxed—we all slept in one bed and at no point did I feel stressed. In fact, when our friend had to leave, we popped out for a while but we were still so horny we had to go back to the hotel and fuck again.
The event was so positive in many ways and really brought us together. Since then we have had other threesomes and also a foursome and a fivesome. It isn’t that regular. Maybe four or five times a year. But it’s always been good and each time very different.
We found we talk about everything more. Our feelings and thoughts and fantasies too—we also spend a long time afterwards going through everything that happened. The good the bad and the amazingly hot things. We’ve found that we like to keep close if we can, eye contact between us is important. It isn’t so much the fucking other people that turn us on and brings us pleasure but it’s the fucking people together that is our biggest joy.
We decided early on that if either of us wanted to stop this type of fun then we would stop. No problems no resentment no issues. We might not do this forever but at the moment we are both enjoying it a lot.
Exposing 40 – Portrait Photographer
I haven’t had loads of threesomes—just four! Three have been planned and one was spontaneous (the one I wrote about here).
The first one was with two people I met on OK Cupid. The chap was due to be over from Canada visiting a friend/occasional partner. After a bit of chat, he revealed that rather than looking for solo dating or sex adventures he was actually looking for someone to join them for an FFM threesome. I don’t think I had been actively thinking I wanted a threesome but when the opportunity presented itself, I thought ‘oh, that sounds fun’. We met for drinks in central London and then went to a hotel. It didn’t rock my world as far as the sex went, but it was a really fun relaxed evening and it definitely made me want to do it again. The best bit was he’s an artist so after the sex he drew me while she and I chatted and drank wine.
The other three have been with a partner and mutual friends—one was spontaneous and the other two were planned. They were all far more satisfying as far as the quality of sex and the intimacy, fun and pure joy of it all went. I liked the couple I joined but there’s definitely a completely different vibe when you’re with people you already know and are close to. Those three all happened at my flat and being in my own space (and a space the other participants know they can treat as their own) definitely enhanced the experience—much more space than in a cramped hotel room and plenty of wine, snacks and toys to hand.
For me, the reason I loved the three at my place so much is that I find watching my partner fuck someone else eye wateringly hot. Watching his facial expressions as his cock is being sucked or he’s fucking someone is such a joyful thing, and watching and listening to someone else responding to him is equally epic. Although I enjoyed all the times I was the centre of attention during these FFM threesomes, the memories that are clearest in my mind (and that I revisit most often) are me sitting back and masturbating as I watched another woman sliding up and down his cock.
I was just really happy and content. All those endorphins, the joy of sharing and giving and watching and being watched. All washed down with lovely wine. What’s not to love?!
There were various configurations over the course of the evening. Some involving all three of us, sometimes just two of us while the other watched (or listened because they were blindfolded). I have favourite configurations and moments from all three that I draw to mind in moments when I am alone. On all three occasions, it was all very relaxed and natural—there were no performative acrobatics or big discussions about ‘what next?’ just three people feeling the mood of the room and having fun. And there was a lot of giggling on all three occasions. There were toys involved. In fact, on one occasion we introduced the Doxy to our friend and she fell off the bed!!
There wasn’t snuggling or staying over afterwards. I don’t like to (and don’t) share my bed with one other person, never mind two. On all four occasions, the post-sex bit involved wine, food and chat. Which is only proper really!
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