How to deep throat

In this guide, we will look at what makes a great deep throat for both the giver and receiver to help you have all the knowledge and understanding you need to learn the art of this erotic blow job technique and experience the pleasure for both parties. You will learn some tips and tricks to help you learn the art of overcoming some of the varied issues associated with deep throating such as breathing. We will also explore various techniques for managing your gag reflex so you can feel comfortable and in control. We will also highlight some of the best positions to help you take a penis deeper down your throat than you thought possible.

What is deep throating?

A deep-throat blow job is exactly what it says it is: an oral sex blow job technique. You take the penis as deep as you can down your throat to pleasure your partner. The term became known in the 1970s after the film Deep Throat featuring Linda Lovelace, a woman who discovered her clitoris was in her throat and, therefore, could only experience the pleasure of an orgasm when enjoying deep fellatio, and hence the term became popularised.

Deep throating is not about perfecting the best blow job but is a sexual technique that you can incorporate into many forms of sexual play, from foreplay through to BDSM, and even solo play when using a dildo. We aim to dispel some myths about this sex act and assure you that it’s certainly not a compulsory part of giving the perfect blow job, but if you think you’d like to give it a go, we have some tips and advice on how to give a deep throat blow job.

Are there risks to deep throating?

The actual art of performing deep throat blow jobs is not in itself dangerous, but ensuring that you don’t find yourself experiencing any injury, it is essential to be aware of limitations and ensure you don’t ever overstep the ability and comfort of the individuals involved.

During any form of sexual activity, communication, consent, and comfort should always be the primary concern. Ensuring communication during the moment is very important and watching for any signs of discomfort, at which point, you must always pull back and restrain from any further activity. The giver must always remain in control, and never at any time should the receiver force their body further onto their partner.

It is a technique to learn, and therefore, it is crucial to stop if you experience any issues such as difficulty in breathing, feeling very sore in your throat, not being able to manage your gag reflex or feeling you may be sick. Ultimately, this should always be fun and not something you feel you have to overcome.

Start with the basics

A great blow job always starts with the basics, and a deep-throat blow job is no exception. In fact, it’s even more important to start slow, work up gently and keep reassuring each other that this is something you’d like to try and agree on a really clear signal if you need to stop for any reason.

Follow the best blow job techniques, stimulating the entire genital area, including the perineum and balls, so you’re both really in the mood.

Use lube

When we are looking at how to give a deep-throat blow job, it might seem strange to mention lube. After all, the mouth is lovely and wet and naturally blessed with saliva. However, it’s always important to have the full length of the shaft nice and lubed up if you’re going to attempt a deep-throat blow job, so squirting some of your favourite flavoured lube into your palms and fisting it into your lover’s shaft is a great way to build anticipation for the main event—and make sure that the passage is nicely prepared. The wetter the better! You simply cannot have too much lube on the shaft and even balls to heighten the sensations.

Choose the right position

As we mentioned above, the best deep-throat blowjob position for ease of access and comfort to the person giving the blowjob is probably lying back with the head tipped over the side of the bed. You can attempt it in all the other blow job positions mentioned, but for having the throat open and being able to lie with your hands free to hold your partner’s hips to control the depth, the lie back is a great option.

Understand your gag reflex

Your gag reflex is exactly that—a reflex where the muscles of the back of your throat resist swallowing. So, while you might be tempted to try and ‘train’ it to be less sensitive, you really can’t be sure when you might feel the need to gag. The actual brutal reality is that once the penis has pushed past that gagging point if something comes up, it will be blocked from exiting by the penis itself… so if bringing up vomit is what’s worrying you, if you make it past the first gag, the penis lodged in your throat will force it back down! Often, at this point, it will also trigger tears in your eyes. Not so romantic, but the truth of giving a deep throat blow job. 

How to deep throat without gagging

Some people have found that throat-numbing sprays can help them be less sensitive to gagging, allowing them to move past the sensation. They work as the name suggests, to numb the area of the inside of your throat but will naturally wear off. They are not designed to eliminate all sensations, and therefore, always be aware of your limits and ensure good communication and ongoing consent between yourself and your partner.

A great way to give the sensation of deep throating without having to face the gag situation is to wrap your fists around the root of the shaft so that you control the depth. This will keep you confident that things won’t go too far but will still give your partner that sexy, deep-throat experience. Always remember, you are in charge, and you find what is comfortable and never force it. 

Finally, it is worth remembering that the ultimate key to any great blowjob experience for the receiver is the showing of pleasure and enthusiasm than the amount of length you can swallow.